Wives have the power to make their husbands a hero or to tear him down. A wife should be her husband’s cheerleader, because if she is not in his corner then who is? Genesis 2:18 “And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'”
How can wives encourage and build their husbands up?
1. Put your hand over your mouth. 🙂 Women love to talk. It’s how we destress and work through problems. But we need to be careful. Is what we want to say edifying? Does it encourage or tear down? (Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever htings are noble, whatever htings are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things.”) Once we’ve filtered our words through Philippians 4:8, then we still need to be careful. There is a time and a place for everything…and when your husband walks in from work is not the time to begin chattering up a storm. 🙂
2. Words of affirmation – It’s so easy to take the little things for granted. So begin noticing the little things your husband does for you…and thank him for it. Does he take out the trash regularly? Does he spend time with your children? Does he make it a priority to go to church on Sundays? When you expect something, you forget to be grateful…and when he forgets to do that little thing, you get upset. So appreciate (and tell him!) the little things.
3. Acts of kindness – Oh…it is so easy to be kind to everyone…except your husband. The little things that often are left undone. There are children to take care of, a home to clean, responsibilities with church, family and friends and before you know it you’ve forgotten about the most important person in your life. So love on your man with your actions with purpose and intent.
4. Love Jesus – God should always be first…in your life and in your marriage.You should love and respect your husband because God commands it. Open your heart to Him and become a conduit of God’s love to your husband.
Philippians 2:13 “For it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.”
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”
~Ruth Bell Graham