I was recently pondering the concept of femininity. It seems that most of the time femininity is equated with modesty, a gentle, quiet spirit, and Proverbs 31. Certainly this is a good description of what femininity looks like but I wanted to come up with the root of femininity. I didn’t want a list of how biblical femininity was manifested but rather what was the root of what it means to be feminine.
My mind drifted to Mary, the mother of Jesus. When an angel came to her and revealed that she would become pregnant before marrying Joseph, she simply said, “Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.” (Luke 1:38)
From my perspective in the twenty-first century, it’s all too easy to think about the great privilege it was for Mary to be the one chosen to bear Christ. But that does not take into account how difficult it was for her. She was pregnant out-of-wedlock in a time and place where that was definitely not acceptable. In an honor-shame society, she probably had to deal with a great amount of ridicule for her pregnancy.
Her gracious femininity came from her humble submission to God. Even though she was in a challenging situation culturally, she was willing to accept the social stigma of being an unwed mother.
One of my college teachers pointed out that the stigma of being an unwed mother would have stuck with Mary her entire life! Even after Christ was born, she would have still been looked down upon because of her apparent “sin”.
True femininity comes from a willingness to submit to God’s will regardless of the consequences and ramifications of what he has called me to do.
~ Melinda ~